"A safe space to let feeling come through and move your body."
Come to the inagural event of the Dances of Freedom and Connection.
Humans need both freedom and connection. The push and pull between freedom and connection, security and autonomy, togetherness and time alone is a challenge we all navigate every day. Many of us struggle to find balance between the two extremes. We feel too much and not enough at the same time.
Dances of Freedom and Connection is a time to embody your desire to be close, touched, held, and secure AND your desire to be autonomous, on your own, unfettered, and free. The dance is designed to be a solo exploration of your own body. What do you want? How do you want to move? What feels good to you as an autonomous human?
The cuddling time is designed to let you bring the self-awareness from the dance into touch and connection with others. Now what do you want? What happens when you ask for it? What happens when you get it or when you don't?
We will practice.
3-3:15 Arrive and settle in. Change clothes. Socialize.
3:15-3:30 Welcome Circle with ground rules for the Dance
3:30-4:30 Dance with light facilitation
4:30-4:45 Transition. Change clothes. Socialize.
4:45-5:00 Transition Circle with ground rules for the Cuddling
6:00 - 6:15 Closing Circle to anchor insights
6:15-6:30 Transition. Socialize. Leave.
Rules of the Event
1. You do not have to touch anyone, ever, during the event.
2. You agree to orient towards pleasure, noticing what you want, and asking for it.
3. You must make a verbal request and receive a verbal Yes before touching anyone.
4. If you're a Yes, say Yes. If you're a No, say No. If you're a Maybe, say No.
5. You are encouraged to change your mind.
6. If at any point you are uncomfortable, you agree to speak up.
7. Clothing stays on. You will wear a minimum of tank top and shorts. Bring a change of clothing and hand towel to freshen up between dancing and cuddling.
8. Laughter, tears, and other emotions are all welcome.
9. Get your facilitators at any point if you need support during the event.
10. Respect people's privacy when sharing about the event.
11. Help clean up and take care of the space.
ETIQUETTEARRIVE ON TIME: It is important that all participants arrive before the Welcome Circle. The Welcome Circle serves the purpose of creating the safe space for consensual, non-sexual touch between participants and making sure that everyone is informed about the rules of both cuddling and dancing. While you must arrive on time (by 3:30) you may leave at any time.HOW TO PREPARE: Shower and brush your teeth but don't use strong scents. Many of us get headaches or would rather not be close to someone who smells of cigarettes, perfume, or even essential oils. Your clean self is a good smell. BE SOBER: Do not drink or smoke before or at this event.WHAT TO WEAR: Pants and a shirt. Sweatpants, yoga pants, onesies, t-shirts, sweatshirts are all welcome - anything that you feel comfortable in. Please stay clothed in a minimum of shorts and a tank top for the entire event. Please do not wear anything that you consider sexy or risque – think elementary school slumber party.WHAT TO BRING: Non-alcoholic beverages and/or healthy snacks to share, blankets, pillows, anything else cuddly, a friend, a date - whatever cuddle accessory you like! The only thing that you are required to bring is a clean and sober you.
CUDDLING WITH STRANGERSCuddling with strangers sounds weird to most people, and often scary. “Will I like it?” “What if someone wants to touch me and I don't want to?” “What if I say yes and it’s not what I want?” “What if I really want to touch someone and they say no?” Are all normal questions. The answers to all of them begin "This is a space created to ask for exactly what you want, and receive NOTHING you don’t want. You may not get everything you ask for, but more than anywhere else, here you are encouraged to ask for what you want, and say ‘no’ or ‘stop’ to anything that you do not want." The space is physically safe. We do everything we can to help it be emotionally and mentally safe, too. And you are likely to be challenged at some point by some interaction. Please embrace challenges as part of the learning and part of the gift of this event.Many people start out nervous at a touch-based event. Most are really, really glad they came.If you'd like to hear about future Dances of Freedom and Connection and other touch and quality gatherings, join our group at: https://www.facebook.com/groups/CommunityCuddles or follow the Cuddle Kassandra facebook page at https://www.facebook.com/CuddleKassandraOur Free Cuddle is a group cuddling event and we love it - it is NOT acuddleparty.com official Cuddle Party. Vega DeLeon hosts official Cuddle Parties in the Boulder/Denver area and we recommend you go to her events, too.
Sunday, Jan. 28 - 10:00 pmtoMonday, Jan. 29 1:30 am